Some places feel stuck in time, especially online “places”. It is not always as explicit as people trying to cling on to childhood memories, like the games they used to play, though it can be. Or the forms of media that constantly recapitulate teenagers going through school, or some variant of that, by adding superpowers or something along the lines.
Sometimes, it is a bit more subtle, such as people obsessed with healing themselves or seeing new possibilities in their life, but never really looking ahead and seeing what they'll do with it. Don't get me wrong, those things can be great, but only if they serve something broader no? What is the point of spinning endlessly in your own inner world, introspecting, meditating, doing shadow work, etc. What does it amount to if you're afraid of taking the leap and committing to real relationships, actually working on your own projects, etc?
Being stuck in time has the benefit of not having to change, which is painful, but it is pretty much always more painful to remain stuck and come to that realization down the line. I think the difference between being on a path or being stuck in time is that ultimately growth on a path is bottlenecked by time and work, whereas being stuck in time is bottlenecked by fear.
It happens to everyone, so I am not claiming to be above it, but it is worth making the distinction because there are many problems in life which aren't solved by learning new stuff. At some points, a leap has to be made, and by the very nature of leaps, it doesn't feel comfortable and it is certainly not predictable.
So I guess a way to practice those leaps is to be spontaneous in small ways, even if they don't matter a great deal. Having more and more unscheduled time, spending time in different places — preferably outside — running small experiments of vibes you want to bring in your life, move from text messages to calls, etc.
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2024-06-21